Surviving the summer holidays as a single parent

Summer holidays should be a time of fun and family bonding - but for single parents, they often come with added pressure, emotional strain, and logistical challenges. Without the usual school structure, many parents find themselves juggling work, childcare, and the emotional needs of their children – all by themselves, with no help. It can be exhausting!

We work with many separated and divorced parents who have told us that school holidays can feel overwhelming, especially in the early years after a parental split.

But we have some good news for single parents: you can not only survive the summer - you can also make it a time of growth and memories for you and your children. Here are some suggestions, so you can make this summer a happy one.

Planning ahead can bring structure to what can otherwise be very chaotic weeks. Create a rough calendar for the summer, making sure that you mark important dates such as work commitments, holiday clubs, and agreed contact time with the other parent. Try to include a mix of exciting outings and downtime at home.

But while planning is good, flexibility is also key. Life with children is unpredictable, and some of the best memories can come from spontaneous adventures or unstructured play. Be open to changing plans when it’s needed, and don’t feel pressure to fill every moment!

Summer holidays don’t need to break the bank. Across Dorset and the South Coast, there are countless free or low-cost options, including:

• Local authority-run holiday clubs
• Library reading challenges
• National Trust ‘50 Things to do before you're 11¾’
• Beach days, forest walks, and nature trails.

You can check your local council or community centre website for events. These activities not only give your child something fun to do but also give you a well-earned breather - whether it’s to work, tidy up, or simply have a cup of tea in peace.

3. Make time for you - without guilt

Many single parents feel pressure to be ‘everything’ during activities in the holidays - entertainer, caregiver, teacher, disciplinarian, and also friend. But remember, taking care of yourself is essential if you’re taking care of your children.

Even small acts of self-care, like meeting a friend, taking a walk, or enjoying a quiet moment can help restore your energy. If possible, try to arrange child-free time, even if just for an hour or two. You deserve it.

4. Co-parenting through the holidays

If you're sharing custody or contact with your ex-partner, summer can bring added stress. This is where communication, clarity, and compromise are essential. Try:

• Creating a written schedule for holiday contact and stick to it where possible.
• Sharing key information about trips, sleepovers, and emergencies.
• Use apps or shared calendars to reduce misunderstandings.
• Put your child’s wellbeing first in all discussions.

It’s not always easy, especially if tensions are still high between parents. But being consistent and civil can help children feel safe and supported during what can be a confusing time for them.

If disputes do arise, one of our experienced solicitors can help mediate and formalise arrangements to reduce future stress.

5. Budget wisely and involve the kids

Finances are often tighter during the holidays, particularly for single-income households. Involving your children in planning can ease the burden and teach them important life skills.

Try to set a weekly activity budget and brainstorm ideas together, use reward charts for behaviour at home and chores - you can encourage older children to create meal plans or cook with you.

A great low-cost idea is to host themed days at home (e.g., ‘beach day’ or ‘movie marathon’).

Children don’t need expensive holidays to be happy! They need your time, love, and attention. Often, it’s the simple, wholesome moments that mean the most to them.

6. Know that it’s okay to struggle

Being a single parent during the holidays is tough. But know that you’re not failing if you feel stressed, exhausted, or emotional. Many parents are silently going through the same thing.

You don’t have to go it alone. Whether you’re newly separated or have been parenting solo for a while, it’s okay to seek support - from friends, family, schools, or legal professionals.

Summer highlights deeper issues

Sometimes, the pressure of the holidays can bring deeper problems to the surface: disagreements about parenting, financial stress, emotional strain, or unresolved legal issues from a separation or divorce.

If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsupported, our family law team at Coles Miller is here for you whenever you need. We offer expert, confidential advice on:

• Separation and divorce proceedings
• Child custody and contact arrangements
• Financial settlements
• Mediation and conflict resolution

Our priority is to help you create a stable, secure future, for you and your children.

The summer holidays don’t have to feel like a burden. With the right legal support and practical strategies, you can face the challenges head-on and create lasting memories with your children.

If you're struggling to navigate co-parenting, divorce, or unresolved legal issues, we’re here to help.